This pretty much sums up why I think he should also be added to the list of people he’s talking about. John Mayer is one of those people that “depends on who you ask” and you’ll get a different opinion. Always drops amazing knowledge on ALL of us just when I need it too… Love or hate him you’ve got to give him this one…
I’m not sure if it’s a function of advancing age or just the times we’re living in, but it’s almost impossible for me to find complete external validation in any one thought, desire, instinct or vision anymore.
Who do you want to be exactly like? Is there anybody in this world who’s laid down a template for your dreams and goals that you’d copy and paste over your own life’s story? Maybe you want to go to a music college as I did when I decided to attend Berklee College of Music in Boston. Start asking some alums whether it’s worth it and you’ll get two distinct answers. One half of the control group will tell you it’s not worth it, that you might as well just start a band and hit the road. The other half will tell you that it was the flash point for their music career and that without it they’d be nowhere. The answer depends on the experience had by each person you talk to. Maybe the “Nos” spent their semesters curled up in a ball fighting with their boyfriend or girlfriend on the phone and never applied themselves to making the most of the time there. You’ll never find the answer you want, just information with which to build your own idea and chart your own course.
Take your favorite artist, the one you look up to and see as the perfect specimen of talent, values, output, whatever the case may be - and someone else has a reason why they’re not worth even a passing glance. Is “Bob Dylan: Don’t Look Back” the documentary of a genius iconoclast or was he a self absorbed pseudo-intellectual bully? It depends on who you ask. Is Jay-Z the reigning king of hip hop or is he “all business” now? It depends on who you ask. I bring up both names because if you ask me, I put them at the top of my list of people who can do very little if no wrong at all, but it won’t take long to read someone’s opposing point of view. If you’re not sure of what you love, that means you can be talked out of it, and that’s a slippery slope.
Is your boyfriend cute? Was Hurt Locker the best movie of the year? Are you going to go out in those shoes? Should you take the promotion and move to Boston? Did I wear “Hammer” pants on stage in Houston or is Rick Owens a visionary clothing designer?
It all depends on who you ask.
Which is a pretty great reason to stop asking all together. Nobody’s life template will ever lay evenly over yours. And in those times when they clash completely, you have to walk alone, with confidence that you’re creating your own template, made out of your own instincts and your own dreams and your own goals. And if you do it long enough, maybe someone someday will look to yours as the life to model theirs after. Of course, some people won’t agree with them. It will all depend on who they ask.
Sometimes there are those songs that just put a smile on your face. PLAIN AND SIMPLE. Dear musicians of the world. THANK YOU.
Sometimes I wish I was still JUST a fan of music. Please don’t take this the wrong way. I absolutely LOVE what I do but with it comes a price. Now I look at my itunes/ipod/records completely differently than I did even at 20. When I used to browse through music I would see the band and think of the music they played and if it was what I wanted to hear at that moment. NOW I see the band name and in some cases think about the people involved in the band/music and negative thoughts keep me from clicking on that music. It really is unfair to avoid music based on the people who play it but it’s one of those things that as you’re listening to it you think about all of the other bullshit that goes along with a silly song that’s completely unrelated to the drama of said band. It’s a bummer sometimes. Today was seriously one of the BEST BEST BEST days off on tour I’ve ever had and this tour has seriously been one of the most comfortable tours I’ve ever done where people truly have gotten along and shared meaningful conversation and situations together. BUT… in the back of my mind I still kind of want to go completely OFF radar for a little while and do my own thing. There has been too much clouding my brain lately and I think that whole “quarter life crisis” thing has been kicking in a bit. Too much confusion and misreading of other people… WHEN WILL EVAN PIERRI FINALLY SETTLE IN???
I’m right where I would want to be, among all of my amazing tour friends. I’m one up from Anthony Amor and 2 up from Ian Planet (two of my all time favorite people).
Thanks for noticing us Ladies. We all work really hard and never get as much credit as the dudes on stage. So I hope all the other dudes on there think this is awesome and funny too (and maybe a little creepy hahaha)… HILARIOUS!!